Your nursery is ready again and you’re eagerly awaiting the arrival of your new baby. But there is a blip on the horizon and it’s how your first child will react to their new sibling. While it’s almost impossible that their boat won’t be rocked by their new sibling, you want to make things go as smoothly as possible. We’ll share some great tips on how you can do just this.
5 Tips on Bringing Home a New Baby
You’re excited about being pregnant and having a sibling for your first child. So are we! The issue is though, how can you get your eldest used to the idea of not being the only child in the family? Here are five ways you can make this a smoother experience for everyone:
- Explain that you have a baby in your tummy – avoid making the baby a surprise by introducing the concept of it being inside you already. Encourage your eldest to talk to the baby, help you pick a name and even come to your scans to see the baby.
- Make the first introduction somewhere neutral – at the hospital is an obvious place, but if you have a home birth, this can be tricky. Encourage them to visit a few times on their own, without other family.
- Give a present from the new baby – one way of speeding up the bond between your kids is to give the eldest a gift from the baby. It’s also something for them to play with when you’re busy feeding or changing the baby later on. It can also help to have a few extra gifts on hand for when visitors bring something for the baby. A new pair of shorts, a dress or shirt makes them feel they are just as important!
- Look back on their arrival – take the time to sit down and talk about when they were a little baby. Show photos of what they looked like, where they slept and the two of you together. Use this time to plant seeds about what the new baby will require you to do, such as feeding and carrying it a lot.
- Become really good at multitasking – spending time alone with your eldest is very important. But I’m also realistic and know that it can be difficult to do this. When you are doing something for the baby, also do something with your eldest at the same time. For instance, you can read a story while feeding the baby.
You’ll probably notice that your big kid wants to become a baby again and this is perfectly normal. Just go alone with the baby talk, thumb sucking and need for extra cuddles as this will pass. What’s important is that they feel just as loved and cared for as they did before the baby arrived.
Do you have any other tips you could share about helping introduce children to a new sibling? Pop them in the comments below!